The Tower of Success

Since a young age, we were all introduced to the idea of working towards success no matter the significance of the reward. Just the other day I was talking to a good friend about my past relationship of why it went south. After that break-up, I had many life epiphanies. I thought that the relationship was worth so much to me as it normally would for many people. The only person aside from my family whom I would truly indulge my entire well-being, mentally and physically. Someone I believe in so wholeheartedly that I do not necessarily need to know where they are headed in life and still have faith that they would find a way to be happy. Her intentions in life were so pure, where I felt like I was the one tainting her. So this article, “The Tower of Success” stems from the thoughts after my break-up.

Throwing my life into a spiral, my mind naturally went into problem-solving mode. Asking the infamous “what if…” questions which inevitably ended in very irrational thoughts. Every single time I caught myself asking “what if…” I follow up with a “now what?”. Having done this, I came to a clear conscious conclusion while speaking with my friend. He asked me, “What happened between the two of you?”. To simply put it, being who I am, I used an analogy.

This was my answer:

Imagine a structure the size of a Jenga tower. It is imperative to use such a scale to see the “bigger picture”. This is the representation of Success (The Tower of Success). So the people who have already made it to the top have laid out ladders for those who are trying to get to the top. These are the clearest ways as we all start out in life, to climb these ladders and achieve each level of success. Now, this is why the scaling of this tower is important at your point of view. Without this point of view, you will not see how many little specks are scattered around this tower trying to build a jetpack, rocketship, catapult or some sort of elevation device. These are your innovators, your one cousin or sibling who seemingly can never hold a job but has big ambitions. These are the people who constantly try to figure out their own way instead of using an already established method to get to the top. They are the people who believe the risk of losing everything is worth it, in the end, they are doing the things where their passions lay. The trade-off is that sometimes these innovations may die with them, unfinished. Everyone who are climbing the ladder may very well have already made it to the top. What my girlfriend at the time did not understand is why I am willing to keep struggling through what I believe in and earn little to nothing, yet still, continuing to do the things I do. I am willing to die for what I believe in even if it does not take me anywhere in life, financially. Let us say that the day comes and my innovation works. Lifting me up to the top faster than anything and anyone could have imagined. Imagine how many people who are climbing these ladders would voluntarily head down these ladders to try my innovation. Imagine how many lives I have impacted, what my once considered, “ludicrous beliefs” have manifested into. This is what pushes me to continue to strive and do what I believe in no matter what anyone says.

My question to you to finish this off is:

If you consider yourself as being “alive”, then don’t you think experiencing all the lows of life are just as if not MORE important than the highs?

Pain Tolerance

People are always scared to share their pasts when pain is involved. We hate to live through that experience even if it’s just being reminded of it. We fear others judging us cause no one likes being picked on – singled out as being weird or abnormal. We inevitably want to be treated as an equal to society. So we naturally start comparing ourselves and our pains with others. Thus, people start judging one another by saying things like, “At school, she’s so fake.” or “OMG what an attention whore!” To be honest, no one’s pain is necessarily more than someone else’s. Think of it like this. An 8oz cup when filled up is considered “full” but also a 2oz cup when filled up is also considered “full”. You can’t say the 8oz cup is fuller than the 2oz. In other words, just because someone hasn’t gone through what you have doesn’t mean that the pain is any more or less than yours. How could you, being an 8oz cup possibly know how it’s like to live as a 2oz cup? Vice versa. Different struggles. Different lives. You will never know. So, instead of judging one another, I encourage you guys to care and help each other and just listen. It will help you get through different hardships that we might be in. So what if you think they’re fake? Just reach out and let them know you’ll be there when they need someone. Share with people your pain and suffering, people are always willing to listen to you and lend you a hand in one way or another. If the first person won’t, the second person will. There are 7 billion people in the world and you only need the sincere help from one of them. Keep trying, keep fighting, don’t give up.

Happiness – The Belittled Emotion

Handfuls, maybe hundreds of millions of people often come across these things rarely known across the universe known as emotions. Some even say inanimate objects have them. Okay, that’s stretching it. Broken up, there are generally two types of emotions we experience. The most renowned one is called the negative emotion accompanied by the positive emotion. These kinds of emotions are often what holds us back or pushes us to do something. The negative emotion is the most renowned because they seem to hit us the hardest. We always seem to be questioning our failures and ourselves when we experience them. Negativity is often linked with doubt and with doubt, we start questioning our own abilities.

When we fail, we always ask ourselves, “Why did this happen to me?”, “What did I do wrong?” and insomnia ensues breaking us down until we give up on trying. That’s the extreme version and most common train of thought emotions. This leads us to be able to detect failure early on and stray away!

However, when we succeed we never ask ourselves those same exact questions. We just enjoy it and never really think much of it. We are relaxed and the time seems like it skips itself. Like those times of your childhood when you first learned to ride your bike or discovering how fascinating everything is. Those times you think you are going to die because you can not seem to catch a breath from laughing. Your body trembles and tears up but you are smiling and happy.

Since you have your body and are the master of your hands and feet. It only makes sense to be in control of your mind with your mind. Redundant. Start questioning things in your life that make you happy or feel good as well as sad. Ask yourself why you feel the way you do whether you feel, happy, sad, jealous, greedy, lustful, wishful etc. Every little thing you feel on the inside ask yourself why you feel the way you feel. You are going to surprise yourself and realize that many things make you feel good or bad. You might even find yourself enjoying the little things within something you don’t even like. This leads us to be able to detect happiness early on and thus, take a better shot at whatever that is you’re trying!