Why do we fear talking about the things that make us Vulnerable?

Many people talk about their start-up successes from dying to flying. Not enough people talk about their mental success from crying to trying. From what I’ve been through in my life during tragedies, I learned some valuable lessons. No one cares about me. They all have their own lives as complex and vivid as our own. The unofficial word for this I believe is Sonder. Click the word to watch a magical video story on it.

So here I am pondering every single day stuck with my brain churning emotions and thoughts. One question that is reoccurring in my mind is, “How can I get others to care?” One conclusion I have come up over the years is, if am able to connect with others and show value to them, then maybe they would care. To speak out my testimony, not for pity but to show my growth and possibly attempt to inspire a drive within them to WANT to TRY. Often times that is the underlying issue, where someone feels like it is not WORTH trying to begin with. I don’t care for your possessions or your assets. What I care is for your well-being.

Mind you, chasing happiness is no different than chasing money. They are both very earthly bound matters. Think about it. Only on this planet earth, you can feel the emotion of “happiness”. Also, the same place where you find money. So if chasing happiness or money is both toxic. What is something we should strive to achieve? I believe having sought after happiness after my parents’ divorce, I always inevitably feel a low no matter how happy I became. Thus, I don’t believe there is one true happiness. To be happy for the rest of my life is just not realistic. I’ve come to realize that I just have to be able to be there for someone even if it is myself. When the worse comes to worst or the good becomes great. So if I want to leave a legacy behind I have to put myself in a position where I can handle anything life throws at me. By being able to “handle it”, I mean to really be able to keep your own morals and judgment at the same humbled manner no matter how rich or poor you are, emotionally or financially.

I love people. I love what the world has to offer because it is a true test of what someone is able to do to become world class. But in the very end, a casket is a casket. Whether wood, metal or marble. Blood is blood whether A, B or O. You are on this earth. This earth is accepting. Just reach out and make something of it. The world won’t care if you don’t care. If you care about yourself and your own mental well-being. Make that known. Others will be right there to support you. STAY WEAK.

“STAY STRONG” the phrase that sets you up for failure

If you have ever been told these two words, “Stay Strong”. They are setting you up for failure. Through the years of trying to understand my own demise, I learned a few things. Every single time I was told to stay strong I did not know how to process that in my head. I have never believed I was ever “strong”. So the question becomes, how can I STAY strong if I’ve never even felt strong to begin with? This leads to another question I started asking myself, “How can I connect with people who feel worthless inside?” Personally, every single time I hear the phrase “Stay Strong” I almost immediately block it out and classify the other person as they have nothing better to contribute. No matter how much they might have meant it.

So I started practicing staying weak. I told people about all the struggles I am going through and how I am actively trying to get out of it. I tell people my plan and goals no matter how small it might have been. The one reoccurring pattern I found is people trust me a lot more. People are willing to open up about their own struggles to me as if we are in it together. I believe once we are able to accept the fact that we are weak and give a voice to our weakness. We can bind together as one strong unit and conquer anything that comes into our path. What is something you believe to be a great achievement? To make something of what you’re passionate about right? If you are passionate about defeating depression or anxiety, take down those walls and give a voice to it. Let yourself speak out and listen to what others have to say. The people who say things you dislike, move on from them. The people who tell you that you can’t tell them that they’re right. Because what you can’t is being associated with them. People who are weak stay together and fight together with no judgment. People who are weak bind together with a cause bigger than the human connection. This is what makes it Magical.

Let those people who are trying to restrict you say what they want. People who try to restrict you are the people who ARE restricted. Release yourself from these kinds of people and seek the people whom are self-seeking. Seek the people who care but do not rely on them. Rely on yourself. Give yourself the voice you so desperately need. If you feel like you’re going to turn all your friends away let that be. You will only attract people who will love you for you. These are the things I’ve tried in my past until today and I only make these posts because I have discovered something that is reoccurring positivity.

If you can take public transit then you can create content

Taking the bus every single day is no easy task. Many stresses come along with taking the bus. The amount of time required from planning to waiting. The wait time for each bus varies and could drastically change your arrival time if you miss a transfer due to a two-minute delay. So the idea here today is about taking the right bus at the right time to reach the destination in a given time-frame.

Opportunities in life are very similar. You ready yourself every single day standing at the bus stop you planned on standing at, to take that bus you planned on taking. If your destination has a time-frame to reach, you better get your plan together and make sure you make each bus transfer with little to no hiccups. When the bus has delays out of your control, trust your gut and have patience. If you have a destination in mind with little to no urgency, do your research and plan your route on which bus to take FIRST. Don’t worry about the last bus or the delays or the transfers. You haven’t even figured out step one. Do not overwhelm yourself with things that are not worth your energy and time at that very moment in the position you’re in. Sometimes, some bus stops have more than just one bus headed in the same direction. This is something you will not know unless you are looking for it.

Of course, there are the people like myself who will tell you to fail fail and fail because it will serve as your greatest lessons in life. If you plan your route to a destination in person. It only makes more sense to plan your life’s destination the same way. One bus stop at a time. The right bus will come and you’re ready to get there. If you get lost you may ask someone to reaffirm your route. Sometimes there might be construction or detours. All in all, you were ready for this trip and ready for the destination.

You’re a WHORE.

    If I could stutter in text, that is the one thing I did not do. You read it right the first time and probably still reading this cause you clicked through to here. Before you speak out, telling me how wrong I am calling others “Whores” let me explain. In our society especially being birthed in the infamous generation, Millennials. We are enslaved to many things in our established society, which we find hard to understand. Here is the definition of the word “Whore” in the context I will be using:

noun derogatory
noun: whore; plural noun: whores
     a prostitute.
     a promiscuous woman.
     debase oneself by doing something for unworthy motives, 
     typically to make money gain likes.
         "he had never whored after money likes"

    You ask yourself, in the concept of prostitution, media would usually suggest there is a manager known as pimps managing these prostitutes. So let us deconstruct the social concept at the surface level of prostitution. First, you have an idea on how you can attract a significant amount of attention by debasing yourself. Next, you find your clients who are willing to partake in the service you are offering. You report your status to your manager for them to give you your cut of the payout. Repeat. Sure, you’re thinking that we all know this so what was the point in me pointing this out? Well, I wanted to put us on the same page to the basic process of “whoring”. We all know at this day in age, context is everything. Famous YouTuber known as, “pewdiepie” has made this abundantly clear after being dropped by Disney for his “antisemitic” behaviour.

    Now that we all are on the same page, let us address the title I used for this blog post. Whether or not this applies to you, we all at the very least know someone this applies to. Social media giants have come up with a system which symbolizes a currency known as a “Like”. Someone who has more “Likes” is more LIKABLE than someone who has less “Likes” on a post. As straightforward as this may be, we find ourselves with trends such as, “Do it for the Vine”, “Do it for the Gram” and so on and so forth. This is where my mind turned to churn out the title of my post, “You’re a WHORE.” Yes with a period. I say that with no digression because I believe that many people do insane things truly strips and DEBASE the meaning of being a wholesome person. For example, people who claim to be “entrepreneurs” for modeling their bodies with no passion on Instagram. The exact promise they made to themselves that it is something they would never do when they were thirteen years old. The people who could not handle the work they have to put behind their ideas and come to a conclusion that this is an “easier way out”. That exact friend of yours that tossed a drink back into a McDonald’s drive-through window and yelled, “FOR THE VIEWS!”. You debase your own morals and beliefs you grew up on and probably will grow away from, just for temporary attention.

    So let us sit down and think about it, what can we do that makes us less of a whore but at the same time have the impact as, “Throwing a McDonald’s cup back into a drive-through window”? One thing that I’ve learned from whoring myself to doing things that I dislike for attention only grew negativity and the loss of creativity in my life. I didn’t have passion in what I was doing therefore, I was losing my vision. Now that I understand what I want to do in my life I have a grander vision than ever. Now it is about the deconstruction of my ultimate goal to set little goals for my each and every day to aim for. If I am able to achieve one thing a day, three hundred sixty-five days a year no matter how significant. It is still one thing achieved a day. That would be 365 things a year. Hell, if you feel slightly extra motivated one out of the days of the week you’d have yourself 417 things a year.



3 Principles of life learned through skateboarding


(Yes, this is me in the picture)

This idea stemmed from being able to predict and catch a kickflip as it flips upwards. This has taught me a few principles in my life.

One of which is the experience required to achieve true understanding. Without smashing my shins hundreds of times and exhausting all the negative and positive outcomes, I would not have discovered the most effective and efficient way to do the kickflip. I now understand that I need to jump ahead of my board to catch it as it comes up to my feet, opposed to flipping it and then falling back on top of the board. This is the difference between experience vs inexperience. I learned through seven years of skateboarding that it could take up to seven years or more for an idea to manifest.

Another principle I have learned through kickflips is that planning is very important. Planning to be successful in a trick leads to the dissection of a trick. I obsess over it and never settle until I land it 300 times, planning each trick from the beginning to the end. Carrying this principle into my life yielded great results. I learned to control my irrational decisions better, albeit not perfectly. I now understand that I must work towards something, no matter the significance of the outcome. Even if I land the trick with my toes, it’s still a land. Just try again and make it better. Just like these blog posts, I kinda like how I format it. Once I give it a week and review it, I’m horrified by my lack of experience, haha.

Which leads to the last major principle that I’ve learned. At the end of the day, whether or not I have been successful, my life is now changed forever, as long as I am consistently passionate for what I am doing, even if I did not have a satisfactory skate session. I will take the “L” and move on. I think about why certain things didn’t work; I take a break from it. During my next approach, I’ll have a better strategy. Lately, before my ankle sprain, I was learning tricks relatively quickly because of this. I took skateboarding less seriously and focused on what I wanted to do. I had a new strategy each time I thought of something new. Deconstruct and reconstruct tricks to make sense of it, then adapt my body to finesse those tricks. In translation, “Deconstruct and reconstruct goals to make sense of it. Then adapt my mentality to finesse those achievements.”

Welp, that’s it for now! I’m sure there’s a lot more I learned through skateboarding that I’ve applied to life, philosophies and such. Thanks for reading, I hope you all have an incredible week!


Significance – The Potential Murderer

Today, let’s take a look at the experiences you go through and its significance as a whole. To put it into perspective, think of the moment you decided NOT to try something because the foreseeable outcome is non-favorable or is not to its fullest potential. Okay, now that I introduced the idea, it is clear where I am headed. You could stop reading here but I’m going to explain my philosophy anyway.

“It is better to aim high and miss than to aim low and hit.” – Les Brown

The significance of everything you believe in is as you perceive it. I came to a realization in my life that changed the way I handle things forever. Here’s a question for you: have you ever realized that the mental environment of each situation/moment is dictated by the reactions of the people involved? Yeah, it’s pretty crazy now that you look back at it. When you become angry and yell versus understand and walk away. Monks call this as being “enlightened”. Being aware of the control you have over every single decision you make when it happens. The mental battle of whether or not you should commit to something due to the significance of the beneficiary details. If you have the time and resources at that moment, for that task that may benefit you in the most minimal way. Ultimately, the event is still an achievement at the end of the day. “Celebrate the small successes” something I heard from one of Tim Ferris’ podcasts.

Restricting yourself from exploring possibilities and taking advantage of the opportunities presented to you due to your value of significance puts you at a disadvantage. At the end of the day, YOU are living a life of your own. I mean, if YOU are not then who is? You are alive today, you might as well do the things you love. Especially if you feel like you’re in a rut. You’ve really got nothing to lose. If you’re able to start a business and keep it going without understanding your passion and love for things greater than the human connection. Once you find that passion and love. Your business will only flourish from it.

Live the way you enjoy even if you are only achieving an “insignificant” amount of success. You are progressing in an area you would sacrifice your thumbs for. When you are doing something you dread, no matter if you reach to become a Product/Project Manager you will not feel satisfied or fulfilled. Have an amazing day and good luck!

Bodhi Monastery: What does it mean to be “enlightened”

Tim Ferriss – The Magic of Mindfulness: Complain Less, Appreciate More, and Live a Better Life

4 Patterns I found to true Satisfaction

I am constantly baffled by the amount of people trying to do things they do not enjoy. Just for validation of another human being who has probably played with the same toys in their childhood. The constant pursuit of “happiness” or in other words, “satisfaction”. Which leads to a life of emptiness. There is an unfathomable amount of articles out there in magazines, newspaper blocks and blogs talking about how all it matters in the end, is to be happy. I’ll make another post later about the Pursuit of Happiness Toxicity.

You know that thought, where you would look at a cardboard box, big enough to sit in as a kid, “the possibilities are endless”. Once you finish being the pilot of that moment, you feel this unreal amount of pride and happiness. Those were the good old days, where it was acceptable to be childish. Here you are today reading these posts trying to find that happiness again. There is one simple thing you need to recognize as a pattern of experiencing true happiness. From the moments of landing that cardboard plane after flying past the Himalayas or drift parking into the side streets of the Favela fooling the cops. YOU were the one who made it happen. You were the one who came up with each scene, each situation, each story. It was your own. No wonder it was so satisfying. It is like dreaming without dreaming. Like nothing on this planet is as exciting as the places you visit in that cardboard box.

Here are the patterns broken down, to hopefully help you recognize the truly happy/satisfying moments in your life:


Each moment YOU create often end in total devastation or total appreciation. YOU are the one who CREATES, which then becomes your success or failure story to tell.

Bigger than the Human-Connection

When the moments you have created had an intention greater than the mere human connection. This shows the genuineness of a pure intention. This is positivity at its peak.

Unique Relatability

Anyone can think of something shallow and surface to find a relatability. The magical moment of a Unique Relatability really creates a surprisingly STRONG bond. (e.g. the moment you realize someone else is JUST as or nerdier than you are)


There’s probably a reason you do not play in a cardboard box anymore right? Well if you see a video of a grown ass man playing in a cardboard box like a toddler, you would feel a sort of happiness. Vulnerability leads to authenticity which creates an attractive atmosphere. This doesn’t matter whether you’re crying laughing or due to sorrow. Authenticity is attractive.

These are the four patterns I find as a reoccurrence every single time I find myself being happy or satisfied. When I reflect on moments I feel defeated I recognize that I probably did it for someone or something else. I probably didn’t believe in it. I probably didn’t come up with the idea. I probably couldn’t find something I could relate to.