3 Principles of life learned through skateboarding

 

(Yes, this is me in the picture)

This idea stemmed from being able to predict and catch a kickflip as it flips upwards. This has taught me a few principles in my life.

One of which is the experience required to achieve true understanding. Without smashing my shins hundreds of times and exhausting all the negative and positive outcomes, I would not have discovered the most effective and efficient way to do the kickflip. I now understand that I need to jump ahead of my board to catch it as it comes up to my feet, opposed to flipping it and then falling back on top of the board. This is the difference between experience vs inexperience. I learned through seven years of skateboarding that it could take up to seven years or more for an idea to manifest.

Another principle I have learned through kickflips is that planning is very important. Planning to be successful in a trick leads to the dissection of a trick. I obsess over it and never settle until I land it 300 times, planning each trick from the beginning to the end. Carrying this principle into my life yielded great results. I learned to control my irrational decisions better, albeit not perfectly. I now understand that I must work towards something, no matter the significance of the outcome. Even if I land the trick with my toes, it’s still a land. Just try again and make it better. Just like these blog posts, I kinda like how I format it. Once I give it a week and review it, I’m horrified by my lack of experience, haha.

Which leads to the last major principle that I’ve learned. At the end of the day, whether or not I have been successful, my life is now changed forever, as long as I am consistently passionate for what I am doing, even if I did not have a satisfactory skate session. I will take the “L” and move on. I think about why certain things didn’t work; I take a break from it. During my next approach, I’ll have a better strategy. Lately, before my ankle sprain, I was learning tricks relatively quickly because of this. I took skateboarding less seriously and focused on what I wanted to do. I had a new strategy each time I thought of something new. Deconstruct and reconstruct tricks to make sense of it, then adapt my body to finesse those tricks. In translation, “Deconstruct and reconstruct goals to make sense of it. Then adapt my mentality to finesse those achievements.”

Welp, that’s it for now! I’m sure there’s a lot more I learned through skateboarding that I’ve applied to life, philosophies and such. Thanks for reading, I hope you all have an incredible week!

 

Significance – The Potential Murderer

Today, let’s take a look at the experiences you go through and its significance as a whole. To put it into perspective, think of the moment you decided NOT to try something because the foreseeable outcome is non-favorable or is not to its fullest potential. Okay, now that I introduced the idea, it is clear where I am headed. You could stop reading here but I’m going to explain my philosophy anyway.

“It is better to aim high and miss than to aim low and hit.” – Les Brown

The significance of everything you believe in is as you perceive it. I came to a realization in my life that changed the way I handle things forever. Here’s a question for you: have you ever realized that the mental environment of each situation/moment is dictated by the reactions of the people involved? Yeah, it’s pretty crazy now that you look back at it. When you become angry and yell versus understand and walk away. Monks call this as being “enlightened”. Being aware of the control you have over every single decision you make when it happens. The mental battle of whether or not you should commit to something due to the significance of the beneficiary details. If you have the time and resources at that moment, for that task that may benefit you in the most minimal way. Ultimately, the event is still an achievement at the end of the day. “Celebrate the small successes” something I heard from one of Tim Ferris’ podcasts.

Restricting yourself from exploring possibilities and taking advantage of the opportunities presented to you due to your value of significance puts you at a disadvantage. At the end of the day, YOU are living a life of your own. I mean, if YOU are not then who is? You are alive today, you might as well do the things you love. Especially if you feel like you’re in a rut. You’ve really got nothing to lose. If you’re able to start a business and keep it going without understanding your passion and love for things greater than the human connection. Once you find that passion and love. Your business will only flourish from it.

Live the way you enjoy even if you are only achieving an “insignificant” amount of success. You are progressing in an area you would sacrifice your thumbs for. When you are doing something you dread, no matter if you reach to become a Product/Project Manager you will not feel satisfied or fulfilled. Have an amazing day and good luck!

Bodhi Monastery: What does it mean to be “enlightened”

Tim Ferriss – The Magic of Mindfulness: Complain Less, Appreciate More, and Live a Better Life

4 Patterns I found to true Satisfaction

I am constantly baffled by the amount of people trying to do things they do not enjoy. Just for validation of another human being who has probably played with the same toys in their childhood. The constant pursuit of “happiness” or in other words, “satisfaction”. Which leads to a life of emptiness. There is an unfathomable amount of articles out there in magazines, newspaper blocks and blogs talking about how all it matters in the end, is to be happy. I’ll make another post later about the Pursuit of Happiness Toxicity.

You know that thought, where you would look at a cardboard box, big enough to sit in as a kid, “the possibilities are endless”. Once you finish being the pilot of that moment, you feel this unreal amount of pride and happiness. Those were the good old days, where it was acceptable to be childish. Here you are today reading these posts trying to find that happiness again. There is one simple thing you need to recognize as a pattern of experiencing true happiness. From the moments of landing that cardboard plane after flying past the Himalayas or drift parking into the side streets of the Favela fooling the cops. YOU were the one who made it happen. You were the one who came up with each scene, each situation, each story. It was your own. No wonder it was so satisfying. It is like dreaming without dreaming. Like nothing on this planet is as exciting as the places you visit in that cardboard box.

Here are the patterns broken down, to hopefully help you recognize the truly happy/satisfying moments in your life:

Autonomy

Each moment YOU create often end in total devastation or total appreciation. YOU are the one who CREATES, which then becomes your success or failure story to tell.

Bigger than the Human-Connection

When the moments you have created had an intention greater than the mere human connection. This shows the genuineness of a pure intention. This is positivity at its peak.

Unique Relatability

Anyone can think of something shallow and surface to find a relatability. The magical moment of a Unique Relatability really creates a surprisingly STRONG bond. (e.g. the moment you realize someone else is JUST as or nerdier than you are)

Vulnerability

There’s probably a reason you do not play in a cardboard box anymore right? Well if you see a video of a grown ass man playing in a cardboard box like a toddler, you would feel a sort of happiness. Vulnerability leads to authenticity which creates an attractive atmosphere. This doesn’t matter whether you’re crying laughing or due to sorrow. Authenticity is attractive.

These are the four patterns I find as a reoccurrence every single time I find myself being happy or satisfied. When I reflect on moments I feel defeated I recognize that I probably did it for someone or something else. I probably didn’t believe in it. I probably didn’t come up with the idea. I probably couldn’t find something I could relate to.

The Tower of Success

Since a young age, we were all introduced to the idea of working towards success no matter the significance of the reward. Just the other day I was talking to a good friend about my past relationship of why it went south. After that break-up, I had many life epiphanies. I thought that the relationship was worth so much to me as it normally would for many people. The only person aside from my family whom I would truly indulge my entire well-being, mentally and physically. Someone I believe in so wholeheartedly that I do not necessarily need to know where they are headed in life and still have faith that they would find a way to be happy. Her intentions in life were so pure, where I felt like I was the one tainting her. So this article, “The Tower of Success” stems from the thoughts after my break-up.

Throwing my life into a spiral, my mind naturally went into problem-solving mode. Asking the infamous “what if…” questions which inevitably ended in very irrational thoughts. Every single time I caught myself asking “what if…” I follow up with a “now what?”. Having done this, I came to a clear conscious conclusion while speaking with my friend. He asked me, “What happened between the two of you?”. To simply put it, being who I am, I used an analogy.

This was my answer:

Imagine a structure the size of a Jenga tower. It is imperative to use such a scale to see the “bigger picture”. This is the representation of Success (The Tower of Success). So the people who have already made it to the top have laid out ladders for those who are trying to get to the top. These are the clearest ways as we all start out in life, to climb these ladders and achieve each level of success. Now, this is why the scaling of this tower is important at your point of view. Without this point of view, you will not see how many little specks are scattered around this tower trying to build a jetpack, rocketship, catapult or some sort of elevation device. These are your innovators, your one cousin or sibling who seemingly can never hold a job but has big ambitions. These are the people who constantly try to figure out their own way instead of using an already established method to get to the top. They are the people who believe the risk of losing everything is worth it, in the end, they are doing the things where their passions lay. The trade-off is that sometimes these innovations may die with them, unfinished. Everyone who are climbing the ladder may very well have already made it to the top. What my girlfriend at the time did not understand is why I am willing to keep struggling through what I believe in and earn little to nothing, yet still, continuing to do the things I do. I am willing to die for what I believe in even if it does not take me anywhere in life, financially. Let us say that the day comes and my innovation works. Lifting me up to the top faster than anything and anyone could have imagined. Imagine how many people who are climbing these ladders would voluntarily head down these ladders to try my innovation. Imagine how many lives I have impacted, what my once considered, “ludicrous beliefs” have manifested into. This is what pushes me to continue to strive and do what I believe in no matter what anyone says.

My question to you to finish this off is:

If you consider yourself as being “alive”, then don’t you think experiencing all the lows of life are just as if not MORE important than the highs?

Pain Tolerance

People are always scared to share their pasts when pain is involved. We hate to live through that experience even if it’s just being reminded of it. We fear others judging us cause no one likes being picked on – singled out as being weird or abnormal. We inevitably want to be treated as an equal to society. So we naturally start comparing ourselves and our pains with others. Thus, people start judging one another by saying things like, “At school, she’s so fake.” or “OMG what an attention whore!” To be honest, no one’s pain is necessarily more than someone else’s. Think of it like this. An 8oz cup when filled up is considered “full” but also a 2oz cup when filled up is also considered “full”. You can’t say the 8oz cup is fuller than the 2oz. In other words, just because someone hasn’t gone through what you have doesn’t mean that the pain is any more or less than yours. How could you, being an 8oz cup possibly know how it’s like to live as a 2oz cup? Vice versa. Different struggles. Different lives. You will never know. So, instead of judging one another, I encourage you guys to care and help each other and just listen. It will help you get through different hardships that we might be in. So what if you think they’re fake? Just reach out and let them know you’ll be there when they need someone. Share with people your pain and suffering, people are always willing to listen to you and lend you a hand in one way or another. If the first person won’t, the second person will. There are 7 billion people in the world and you only need the sincere help from one of them. Keep trying, keep fighting, don’t give up.

Happiness – The Belittled Emotion

Handfuls, maybe hundreds of millions of people often come across these things rarely known across the universe known as emotions. Some even say inanimate objects have them. Okay, that’s stretching it. Broken up, there are generally two types of emotions we experience. The most renowned one is called the negative emotion accompanied by the positive emotion. These kinds of emotions are often what holds us back or pushes us to do something. The negative emotion is the most renowned because they seem to hit us the hardest. We always seem to be questioning our failures and ourselves when we experience them. Negativity is often linked with doubt and with doubt, we start questioning our own abilities.

When we fail, we always ask ourselves, “Why did this happen to me?”, “What did I do wrong?” and insomnia ensues breaking us down until we give up on trying. That’s the extreme version and most common train of thought emotions. This leads us to be able to detect failure early on and stray away!

However, when we succeed we never ask ourselves those same exact questions. We just enjoy it and never really think much of it. We are relaxed and the time seems like it skips itself. Like those times of your childhood when you first learned to ride your bike or discovering how fascinating everything is. Those times you think you are going to die because you can not seem to catch a breath from laughing. Your body trembles and tears up but you are smiling and happy.

Since you have your body and are the master of your hands and feet. It only makes sense to be in control of your mind with your mind. Redundant. Start questioning things in your life that make you happy or feel good as well as sad. Ask yourself why you feel the way you do whether you feel, happy, sad, jealous, greedy, lustful, wishful etc. Every little thing you feel on the inside ask yourself why you feel the way you feel. You are going to surprise yourself and realize that many things make you feel good or bad. You might even find yourself enjoying the little things within something you don’t even like. This leads us to be able to detect happiness early on and thus, take a better shot at whatever that is you’re trying!

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